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Great post as always, Kyle 💪🏻

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Thank you brother

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A lot of people should read and meditate on this:

“Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears.”

Each time I read your newsletter I’m inspired to keep going with my goals.

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Man, really appreciate that bro

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My friend always used to say: Balance is a pendulum, and I feel like resilience is what lets us manage those unpredictable and inevitable parts of life. Great post!

Also the quote comfort is the worst addiction = so true! That one hit me like a brick.

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Appreciate you Gen

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👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

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👊🏻

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I love the clarity of this message as well as the message! In my experience, adversity is a part of life and when I meet it with courage and presence, I grow stronger and wiser. Life trains me. Although I challenge myself daily, I am not certain that I need to look for adversity to gain resilience. I'm happy to have a heated home, food in the refrigerator, and outdoor gear for outdoor winter activities. Isn't there a time and place for comfort, rest, and integration? Without expectations, instead gratitude.

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Thanks Judith. If you challenge yourself daily, then I would argue you are seeking adversity and just framing it differently which is a resilient strategy in and of itself! Rest is essential and there’s nothing wrong with comfort.

The argument is that when someone’s scale tips toward only pursuing conveniences and pleasures then resilience can suffer when life inevitably puts hardship on your plate.

Appreciate your inputs as always!

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Love this way of framing it Kyle 👊

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Thanks for the distinction. I have been reframing adversity for so long, I forgot I was doing it! Lol.

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Subconscious competence! That’s the ideal

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Excellent writing Kyle! 👏 Your elucidation of the stoic virtues in action reminds me of Peterson and Seligman's review of the core universal (trans-cultural) human virtues, and their thesis that these have been "naturally selected" because they convey survival value. Kind of like human software that can be taught and learned and mastered, as you provide so well in your teaching. Here's my brief review of their book in case your readers might find some value in it:

https://bairdbrightman.substack.com/p/what-is-a-good-person

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I love that idea. Our hardware is relatively unchanged since the original Stoics were walking the earth but environmental change has influenced our software. Awareness followed by intervention can get us back on the right track to capitalize on all the technological advances while not losing ourselves in them.

Thank you for sharing the link too! Checking it out now

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Thanks Kyle. Wouldn't it be wonderful if our "modern" K-12 education system taught virtue and resilience within an "action learning" paradigm such as you offer in your work? Just imagine all the suffering we could prevent!

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Seems like common sense but obviously not a priority for formal education systems at this point. Appreciate you

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Excellent! This quote in your post says it all to me, Comfort is the worst addiction.

-Marcus Aurelius

it was like a slap in the face

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👊🏻

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Profound. Thank you.

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Thank you too brother

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You had me at brown belt. That to me is relatable evidence that you know more about resilience than average. The rest just blows my mind, ceiling by ceiling. I salute you, good Sir.

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Thank you brother. Means a lot coming from you.

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