38 Comments

Haha how many favourite posts can I have?! This one is just so jam packed with insights, I don't even know where to start. As frustrating (and inevitable) as negative thinking can be you have many great alternatives. It's critical we remember that there is plasticity in our mindsets, if we can be aware enough to see them. I'll be saving this post to remember to come back when I'm in a spiral. Great work Kyle!

Expand full comment

Appreciate you Gen!

Expand full comment

Right back 'atcha! Haha I like to think of myself as the unofficial captain of the RMS fanclub. 😂

Expand full comment

😂

Expand full comment

This is a gold mine, Kyle. I'll enjoy continuing to read these through the weekend. Fantastic reminders and insight.

Expand full comment

Appreciate you brother

Expand full comment

This was helpful, thank you for sharing!

Expand full comment

Thank you for the feedback Stephanie!

Expand full comment

Thank you for all the strategies! This is a post that I will come back again when I get stuck with some negative thoughts 🙌

Expand full comment

Thanks Kessie! Appreciate you

Expand full comment

“Impatient people are prone to mistakes, miss opportunities and lack fulfillment.” Ouch. Gobsmacked

Expand full comment

😂 thanks for reading Michele!

Expand full comment

This should be required reading for everyone.

This is what they don’t teach you in school and really it should be hammered in year after year. Definitely a gold mine as someone else said.

Expand full comment

Appreciate it Byron! It is definitely taught in our children’s school - homeschool. Probably one of the many reasons you’re seeing a big cultural shift toward it

Expand full comment

I love this and am so glad I stumbled upon a writer like you! Excellent. I’ll be sharing.

Expand full comment

And right back at you after checking out your profile!

Expand full comment

Wow, thank you, Kyle! That’s such a compliment from a writer like you!

Advice like yours is what I needed after each trauma: honest, realistic, hard hitting enough to resonate. Adding the scientific aspects is EXACTLY what I need now to further understand my experiences.

Thank you for writing - this matters! I’m thrilled I found you!

Expand full comment

That makes two of us! Looking forward to sharing more ideas and collaborating more. Have a great one and all the respect in the world for sharing your story in the way you are.

Expand full comment

Thank you so much, Kyle. It’s greatly appreciated and it seems like you really do get it. Such perfect comments for a Saturday afternoon.

But, yes, I would love to collaborate and chat further - send me a DM

Expand full comment

Thank you very much Allison!

Expand full comment

Kyle, this one was a monster.

Bookmarked, shared, loved.

I highlighted a dozen of passages.

And to be honest, this could be a book, literally.

I learned so much.

Thank you.

P.S. Here's my top 5

"One can’t fix an unobserved problem."

"If everything needs a 10/10, productivity will suffer."

"Outsourcing your feelings to circumstance is unwise."

"The most efficient and effective way to train reframing of your unique negative thinking patterns is to thrust yourself into adversity."

"Learn what your inner demons like to pollute your mind with and then consistently work to abolish them."

Expand full comment

Wow, thank you very much Max. Appreciate you! Maybe we could co-author something in the future!

Expand full comment

would love it

Expand full comment

There’s a lot to think about here. I will have to come back.

Last week I felt disrespected and not listened to. By a major corporation whose products I have supported faithfully. Somehow I made the mental fallacy of individual customers mattering to them. My bad!

Expand full comment

Thanks! I knew I could count on you, well at least for now while you’re making your mark. After you hit the big time I guess all bets are off.

Expand full comment

😂

Expand full comment

You matter to me Tim.

At least until I have my own major coorporation…

Expand full comment

Another great post. I kept seeing myself in the patterns, mostly the bad ones. It was the mental equivalent of your Fight Gone Terrible workouts. Thanks… I think. ;)

Expand full comment

Hahah you’re welcome.

It’s actually workouts like fight gone terrible that can help you figure out some of your established patterns for those who aren’t able to reflect. Get yourself real uncomfortable and then find out what negative patterns start to surface.

Prolonged plank holds can be good for this too.

Expand full comment

It may have to be something besides plank holds. I can do a plank all day. I did 10 minutes the other day and quit because of boredom.

BTW, your damn abstack, is a killer. I thought I had strong core. Not far into the second exercise(knees bent), my shoulder blades do not get very far off the ground. You move through the reps fast. Is it better to try to hold the up position for a sec or two?

Expand full comment

You are an inspiration in what I know you’re capable of and have done this far in your life while continuing to do more.

Ps, the workout of the week will involve another good physical test to challenging thinking patterns. Not fight gone bad nor isometric hold. Just finished it an hour ago. Was a good one

Expand full comment

Hahaha throw some weight on your back to make the plank more challenging quicker! Ten min and calling it easy is awesome. How old are you now?

Yes, pausing at the top of reps adds quality and difficulty.

Respect brother 👊🏻

Expand full comment

Duh, why didn’t I think of that? When had a trainer he’d put a plate on my back, I can wear my ruck and do the same. Thanks for the idea.

Expand full comment

I’m very old, chipped, cracked and broken. 77. 😥

Expand full comment

I've been working my way through this post for a couple days now. So useful. Reframing negative thought patterns is definitely something I'm working on, and all the examples you provide are invaluable.

Expand full comment

Thank you Sheridan!

Expand full comment